While I was growing up, everything was wrong with me. At least, few people around me thought so.
I had chinky eyes (that’s a slang for having an oriental look), I had a mole on my upper lip which made be look like a muslim girl. I was short, though I am 5.3’’ but I was short as compared to rest of my clan, they are very tall. I had a gap in between my front two tooth, so that made me look gawky. I was not pretty, I was not attractive. I was look down upon for everything possible. I was quite disliked and infamous for the reasons unknown to me.
To my immediate family I was everything else but this. I was fair-complexioned ( fairness being a very big looks criteria in India) and pretty. But above all, I was brave and strong. I had an ability to speak my mind with anybody and everybody. I was uninhibited and I never hesitated in expressing my feelings and my views. While I could have easily cowed down to what people think of me but I didn’t as my family believed strongly in me.
As time passed, I realised it’s not my looks that bother people. It’s my mind. I can speak up while they can’t. I don’t fear the outcome while they way the pros and cons. I like living a free and transparent life as mentally I am not bound by society norms, society does not bother me or affect me. My family and my friends do, they are the people I care about and worry about, my actions should not have any negative impact on them.
I realised when people hate you, dislike you for no reasons, there is something which you have that they don’t, so don’t give in to the pressures of the world, just be you. Everything will fall in place. You are born certain way but you can grow up to be what you want. Looks isn’t everything. Heart isn’t everything. Mind isn’t everything. It’s the combination of looks, heart and mind that makes you the person you are. And you are just perfect the way you are. Stay you. Be you. Let the world accept you or adjust to you!